02 May How-to: Tolerate Future Monster In-Laws!

When getting married to your finance you are not only marrying that one person but your in-

laws as well and therefore, they will soon be considered your future family. Your in-laws

ultimately will be your part of your family and will take on the role as a second pair of parents

to you. This can be overwhelming and as the wedding day approaches many in-laws want to be

involved in all aspects since you will be marrying their child. Some in-laws may be easy to deal

with while others may be difficult to deal with. Either way there are plenty ways to deal with

them whatever the situation may be. We gathered a list of ways to give you excellent advice on

how to put up with your in-laws- to-be. Remember this is going to be your family so anyway to

please their wishes will go a far way.

7 Key Tips For Dealing With Future In-Laws

1. Make an effort with the in-laws

Marriage is all about compromise so making an effort to please your in-laws can set the stage

for them to welcome you into their family with open arms. By respecting the in-laws- to-be will

make them so happy that their child found someone as great as you to marry. They will grow to

love you and will clearly see the happiness that you bring to their son or daughter more than

ever. When making this kind of effort in-laws will be encouraged to spread kind words of you to

their extended family as well. Everyone in your future family will be more than excited to meet

you.

2. Setting the boundaries

Yes, it is important to make an effort and to keep them included in the wedding plans however,

certain decisions should only be up to you and your fiancé. The wedding primarily is all about

you two anyway and what makes the both of you happy. In-laws are great voices when

providing advice and opinions but most of the final decisions should be up to the bride and

groom. Other boundaries should be set as well to avoid any drama that may arise during the

marriage. For example, if your fiancé doesn’t mind parents showing up to your home

unannounced but you do then the boundary should be set that you would like them to call

before showing up. So take control and set the boundaries beforehand.

3. Communicate with them directly

Communication should always be open between you and your in-laws. You shouldn’t ask your

future spouse to talk to the family if something bothers you, instead talk to your in-laws

directly. Approach your in-laws just like you would approach one of your friends. This will show

them that you care and want to fix any problems with them in the proper manner. By keeping

the communication lines open will essentially build a stronger bond between you and the in-

laws for years to come. When accomplishing this and showing interest in them will make them

eager to listen to your wants and needs way more than when going through a third-party such

as your husband or wife.

4. Negotiate the ideal role of the in-law

It is important to talk with your spouse on the role you want your in-laws to play on every

subject such as the wedding, the planning, within the actual marriage, when the holidays role

around, and especially when kids finally come into the picture. This can avoid issues that you

may find between your future spouse and in-laws. By setting the roles you two as a couple can

have your privacy when needed and the in-laws will be in your presence during those times

when you both need them to be the most.

5. If they don’t accept you, be humble and accept it anyway!

Don't be discouraged if the in-laws don't accept you at first it’s just a minor setback. It’s okay to

not be accepted sometimes as long as you bring happiness and love to their child’s life they will

eventually learn to love you through time. Once they see the love and strong bond between

you two will only force them to appreciate you. Acceptance can come later on and realistically

takes its own course to develop. As long as you two as a couple accept one another that's all

that really matters. By showing your in-laws that you are okay with not being accepted just

proves to them what a good person you really are by taking the higher road without causing

any family drama. Accepting this minor set back will all be worth it in the long run.

6. Never discuss any relationship conflicts with the in-laws

Make sure to keep any conflicts between your love relationship just between you and your

future spouse. There is no need to get other family members involved especially when it comes

to the in-laws. In reality no matter what the situation might be your in-laws will more than

likely take the side of their child over you since that is their blood and number one priority. By

keeping issues between yourselves will ward off any resentment that they may feel towards

you which is the last thing you need to worry about.

7. Making the transition into the new family!

Last but not least it’s time to make that final transition into your new family. At first it may be

hard and you could very well feel out of place however, eventually as time goes on you will feel

like a key member of the family. It is important to always make sure to respect them, to show

your appreciation, and to attend all family gatherings that may occur. By being in their

presence, the relationship between you and your in-laws will only grow a strong bond. It is

essential to treat them just like you would treat any member of your own family. Their door will

surely be open for you at any time and can defiantly make you feel more special than ever.

These are just a few tips to get you started on how to deal with future in-laws. So don't worry,

be confident and just show them how great of a person you are! Take it all in and enjoy their

presence as you exchange your martial vows with one another. Your future in-laws will one

hundred percent be referring to you as their son or daughter in no time!