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Marriage is a huge step for the couple but also for their children. As you celebrate your love and commitment, you will naturally want to include your and your beloved’s children in the moment. You can add touches to your ceremony and reception to welcome your new “bonus” kids.
Include Them in the Ceremony
The age of your kids will influence what role they might play in the ceremony. Younger children may love to act as flower girls or ring bearers, while older kids may appreciate being asked to be junior bridesmaids or groomsmen. You could also add a candle-lighting or other unity ceremony
For the best experience, invite your kids to take part in the wedding, but don’t insist on it. Many children are shy or will be nervous. Let them know it’s acceptable to sit with family members and watch if they wish.
Create a Special Dance
At the reception, it’s traditional for the bride and groom to dance with their parents and new in-laws. Since this ritual represents a blending of families, it makes sense to also include the children of the wedding couple.
Consider the age and gender of the children as you plan the dances. If paired dancing won’t work, pick a lively song and have a group dance. Everyone will love seeing the new family celebrating together on the dance floor.
Hire a Helper
You won’t be able to supervise or entertain the children during the entire ceremony or reception. You might be tempted to ask a family member to help out, but that may not work out. Your family are guests and also want to enjoy themselves at your wedding.
Hiring someone to care for the children at the reception can be a good solution. You can relax knowing your kids’ needs will be met while you take part in the wedding traditions. For evening weddings, it’s a good idea to make napping or sleeping arrangements.
Your wedding should embrace your two loves—your new spouse and your children. While each family is unique, your efforts to include kids and stepkids is a loving gesture. Planning a wedding that makes the kids an integral part of the day can give your new family a positive and loving start.
Working with a wedding planner can help you arrange your New Jersey/New York area wedding. Click here to learn more.
