15 Feb Communication is Key
Communication is Key
What’s more important than both you and your partner being able to enjoy your big, special day?
It’s not everyday that you’ll get to make one day all about you two and be able to celebrate your
relationship and partnership together so make sure to build up some good communication skills
because when it comes time for the wedding, every element should be personal and exciting to
both partners in the relationship. Be honest, be consistent, and communicate. No one likes
dealing with ambiguity and uncertainty. The entire process of planning a wedding may not
always be a walk in the park so attempt to make the most of it. Effective communication is not
only important for the special day but it is also key for starting your marriage off on the right
These few tips for how to communicate with your partner isn’t definitive because every couple is
different but it might give you some insightful ideas on how to start thinking about your wedding
plans as a team and work with each other in the most inventive way!
1. DO SOME RESEARCH AND EDUCATE YOUR PARTNER
In many cases, you might know more about weddings than your fiance. Maybe you’ve
been giving your wedding some thought before you were even engaged or maybe you have
friends who have planned weddings and know a little about what to expect, money and energy
that wedding planning takes.
Anyways, do some of your own research, and be prepared to show them different options
for weddings and vendors that have different price points because that might surely ease them
into things. For example, if you show them 5 different types of wedding Dj’s at 5 different price
points, they’ll have more context and will probably have lot easier time understanding why you
want to hire a dj for thousands of dollars.
For a good starting point on dj’s, check out some of the dj packages we offer!
2. BE OPEN MINDED AND TREAT THEIR OPINIONS WITH RESPECT
It’s definitely okay if your partner is not on the same page as you just yet as to what
exactly planning a wedding entails. But, hopefully they’ll have some opinions as to what they
have imagined your wedding day to be like. Even though some of their ideas may sound a little
crazy or just not what you had in mind, it’s still very important for you to listen to what is
important to them just as they should listen to what is important to you too. Sometimes their
ideas may even scare you a bit but, hear them out and always treat their opinions with respect.
As mentioned before, the whole point about the wedding day is for both of you to enjoy it
together so it should be equally exciting for the two.
3. HAVE AN HONEST DISCUSSION ABOUT BUDGET
The unfortunate reality is that throwing a wedding can be very expensive. Since you’ll be
spending a lot of money, you and your significant other should, without a doubt, be on the same
page about how much money you guys are willing to spend.
Before you start booking and setting anything in stone, draw up a rough draft of the guest
list and anything you guys are interested in incorporating in the wedding, that way you get a
sense of how many people will be attending and an outline of your expenses. Everyone’s
situation is different: one or both sets of parents may contribute, or perhaps as a couple you will
be funding the wedding yourself. Either way, be honest about where the money is coming from
and how much of it is available for your dream day.
Once you have agreed on a budget, the next step is to start booking venues, vendors, etc.
that are in a price range that you both feel good about. May each of you could make a list of the
top wedding day “must-haves” and “absolute must-NOT- haves”. This will help you figure out
where your ideas different so you can address them before they crop up later in the planning
process. This will also help you figure out what you both view as important to have on the
4. GET TO KNOW THE EXPECTATIONS FROM EACH FAMILY
Wouldn’t it be a lot nicer if all the wedding planning was just between the two people
getting married? Well unfortunately that isn’t always the case since both families play a large
role during the planning. The more opinions you add into the mix, the more complicated it can
Don’t ignore the fact that some of each of your family's hopes and dreams are also
important too! Even if you can’t give them everything and exactly what they want, at least try to
incorporate the do-able expectations. When you’re marrying your spouse you’re also marrying
their family…so, it’s best to start things off on the right off!
5. BE CLEAR
People aren’t mind readers. Your fiance can’t possibly know when you need their help or
attention if you aren’t asking for it. If and when you do need their help, make sure you ask kindly
and respectfully, of course. You’ll probably want their company when it’s time for a venue tour,
cake tasting, or something where he’ll need to be occupied for a while, so if you tell them in
advance and what to expect, the better overall experience you’ll both have throughout the
planning. Clear communication and advance notice will get your spouse in the right mindset!
6. IT’S ALL ABOUT TIMING SO KNOW WHEN IT IS A GOOD TIME TO BRING UP
Yes, wedding planning is awesome and exciting! But as any engaged person knows, it can
quickly take over your life. It’s SO easy for every conversation to be wedding-related, and that
can get old pretty quickly.
To avoid wedding planning fatigue, choose your conversation topics and timing wisely. Plan to
address the most important things first, that way when attention spans start to wane, you’ll have
the key decisions made and the less important things you can roll over until later.
7. SET ASIDE TIME TO JUST BE TOGETHER
As mentioned before, wedding planning can get overwhelming. Along with finding the right
times to talk about the wedding, try to also find time to relax and take a break from all the
planning. I’m sure there are lots of other important things going on in both of your lives then just
the wedding itself. Most importantly, try to stay balanced.
To take some time to enjoy the little things that have fallen off the radar with all the planning
craziness, setting aside a few weeknights and weekends where you don’t talk about wedding
details can be a good way for both of you to reset to those good old times.
8. AGREE TO WORK TOGETHER AS A TEAM
Above all, be a team. Agree to work as a team, agree to be mutually supportive and agree to be
patient: this will make communicating with each other during wedding planning so much better.